This is a reenactment of a telephone conversation.
“Well, I’m the kind of girl most guys aren’t interested in. I have stubby legs. So, I am very short. My arms are fat like a wrestler. My butt is average, but it looks small because my boobs are abnormally huge. I hate my smile because I have a crooked tooth. Other men aren’t interested in me, but maybe you would like to meet me.”
That was my first wife describing herself.
When I hung up, I vowed to become her best friend. (I don’t remember what I said to her, she swears she knew she was going to marry me after that first conversation).
We talked on the phone everyday four months. In November, I flew 1350 miles (to the Dominican Republic) to meet my friend.
During conversations with her sisters and her parents, I learned she had been abused by her prior boyfriend of seven years.
When I met her, the wounds from the slaps, punches, kicks, and head slamming against the wall (that was his favorite) all healed.
As you can see by her self description she never healed from the verbal abuse.
My mother always told me “women are sacred.” I feel that in my heart.
You don’t hurt a butterfly.
On nights of introspection, she used to say there’s a little girl inside her that wants to get out.
My style with ALL the women has always been to encourage growth. Explore and experience life. Love yourself. Appreciate who you are. Learn your hidden talents.
Find out who that little girl was meant to be.
With this spread your wings approach, my first wife discovered a talent for languages. My current wife Allie learned she has a talent for drawing, decorating, and photography. My friend in the bad relationship, she finished culinary school.
It is never too late to spread your wings.
Focusing on your failed relationship will only waste precious time. Forget those lost years. You still have time to live, to explore, to be happy.
But your happiness depends on you. And that starts with loving the person in your mirror. When you learn to love yourself, when you value yourself, you will never permit anyone to hurt you. There’s nothing more beautiful than a confident butterfly.
So ladies, it is up to you to spread your wings.
Fly. butterfly. fly.
Photo is a selfie taken by my wife Allie.
This is a marvelous post. I just love this and I am sure a whole lot of women will 🙂
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Thank you for reading. When need to embrace themselves and be all that they can be.
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True indeed. That’s the way it should be.
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So beautiful hopeful and full of love.. I shared it with my abused girlfriends.. Thank you❤️
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Smiling. Thank you. I hope it inspires them. I feel terrible for all these unappreciated butterflies.
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It did inspire them.. Keep sharing your love – it helps 😊
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Thanks for the encouragement
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Always 😊
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U kno Andrew! ?
There are 2 bloggers til now in blogosphere who beautifully express love
So magically Penn abt love
Dat people start loving
And believing in love
Though I m new here, in 2 months I saw 2 people writing so wonderful
And all about love!
One is you
Other is Daksi
#immense love
Whenever I read ur n his posts
I m forced to believe in magical love
This is strange!
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Abusing leaves terrible scars, but love heals all with time and patience . Beautiful post.
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Thank you so much. I had forgotten all about it. Thank you or reading. I was an abused child (physical not sexual). And it appears all my female friends have always experienced some sort of abuse. I used to think I was a magnet for these women, but now I believe they are meant to cross my path. Sorry for the long winded response. Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful day.
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You welcome, have a nice day too. It was my pleasure to read.
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Thanks
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Hi theloneauthorblog Interesting. Thank you for liking my “Wreckage!” Peace and Best Wishes. The Foureyed Poet.
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Yep – you’re absolutely right .. It’s never too late to spread your wings and fly… x
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Exactly. Thank you for reading.
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r u fine?
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I am still the same; experiencing my blurred vision and waiting for the hospital to set a date for my surgery. Othger than that I am fine. Thank you so much for asking. I hope you are well.
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Reblogged this on ENLIGHTENMENT ANGELS and commented:
” You still have time to live, to explore, to be happy.”
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Thanks for the reblog. I hope you are well.
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Hello my dear, all is as it should be. The year is winding up quickly and much has changed, but all is well. Cheers doll.
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What a great post and even greater words that we all need to hear. Most women have been abused in some way shape or form, and though it is rough – we can get through it and make this life a great one. We can let the Light in and let ourselves shine in such a positive and inspirational way that the past (though will always be there) will dim and only be overshadowed by Light and Love!
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This is awesome! your wife is beautiful..
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It was just so beautifully awesome. I really never thought that a guy can think like this but I’m really glad you do. Your wife is beautiful and she’s lucky to have you.
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Thank you Sonali. I appreciate your kind words and the compliments. And yes, this guy thinks like that.
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You’re welcome 😊. Well, that’s awesome.
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How often do you post?
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I try to post at least once in every couple of days but I’m not always able to follow this routine because of my studies.
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Studies come first. I was just checking to make sure I haven’t missed anything.
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Yup, studies does come first. Oh well, I don’t think you’ve missed anything.
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Great. Study, your followers will be here.
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That’s really nice to know 😊. And I need to focus on my studies right now anyway. After all, it’s my last year at school.
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What are you studying? Sorry for asking
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Oh, that’s okay. I don’t mind you asking 😊. I’m a Science student and I’ll be completing my junior college this year.
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Congrats. Wish you all the best.
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Thanks 😊
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“Fly, butterfly, fly.” I’m working on it. Bless you, Drew, for being the sacred protector of damsels in distress. xxx
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Nelissa, I am so anxious for you to fly. You words and personality are beautiful now, I imagine how stunning
they will be once you are in flight. Thank you for reading. And thanks for the blessings. Mucho appreciated.
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Thank you sweet Drew. Your encouragement and kind support really do mean a lot to me. Hugs my sweet friend xx
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Big hugs right back. xoxo
I have more replies for your beautiful comments. Life has been crazy these pasyt few weeks. Thank you for your wonderful support. You are a treasure. xoxo
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I love this Andrew!:)
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You are a beautiful butterfly Stella.
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Aww thank you so much
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Yeah,every woman is like a butterfly but mostly can not recognise about it,dear dew!!
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Some men cannot recognize it. I do. Ev ery woman is beautiful. Every woman is capable of great things. Every woman is a butterfly.
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Yeah.dear dew!! You are right.🌹🌹🌹
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Reblogged this on LIVING THE DREAM.
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Thank you so much for the kind reblog. It means a lot.
Thank you.
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Most beautifully conversation between you and beautiful Ally.yeah.it is true that every girl and woman are like butterfly.they have to recognise themselves and not to allow any body to hurt her.
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Yes, all women are butterfly.
You too mt dear friend.
You are a butterfly.
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😊😊😊😘😘😘😘🌹🌹🌹🌹🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴
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Still now,i am flying like the butterfly in all garden from Florida’s palm trees to my Kashmir’s Chinaar’s trees;
Wow my chunari(long scarf) is blowing in sky by heavenly breeze.
I am lost in dream with opened eyes in unknown paradise;
Come my lost dear beloved !! Here is love’s land why you are surrounded to think as distinguish.
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Smiling
So happy you are happy Aruna
It is a great day and night
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Yeah.i am most happy and heart is smiling because of you.yeah.i have a great night after that great day.so much thanks my dear!!my heart is giving you many blessed kisses on your forehead.Big hugs and mucho love❤🌹❤🌴❤🍁
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It is important to understand that we, human beings, are wired to attach to other people. Unfortunately, attachment trauma can lead us to live in poor relationships in all areas of our lives. Also, love is a foreign language for people. Why? How can you love someone or let yourself go with that feeling when the love your partner has to give to you is so unfamiliar? Some women accept to stay with violent partners because that dynamic is familiar to them, and they reject healthy partners because they can’t provide the roller coaster drama that violent people do.
I am glad she could find her way, back “home”!
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Nice
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Appreciate your read and lovely message. Thank you.
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🙏🌹
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