When My Wife Became My Hero


When My Wife Became My Hero

When Allie arrived in the United States, we decided instead of working she would get her degree.

Life is what happens while you’re making other plans.

Soon after her arrival, I lost my job. The following year, we depleted our savings and faced eviction.

Then I slipped and fell down a flight of stairs.

Sitting in the emergency room, I looked at my frightened bride; new to this intimidating city, with no knowledge of English.

Our survival depended on her.

Thus began our nightmare. Her relatives (cousins & aunts) suggested she leave me, then, they stopped communicating with her. My friends disappeared.

We lost everything we owned.

On three occasions we went to bed thinking we would be homeless the next day. All three times as I researched homeless shelters my bride shocked me by finding a temporary job and a place for us to live.

One Friday night in October 2013, we had zero money and an empty fridge. I wasn’t scheduled to receive my benefit money until Monday.

Honestly, I thought my bride had lost her mind. As our grumbling stomachs roared she prayed.

Minutes later, she said she needed air. Barely one hundred feet out of the building, we found twenty eight dollars.

That same scenario repeated itself twice in 2014.

In 2015 I had two surgeries (right retina and cervical spine). For a few months I lost use of my arms. Allie bathed, shaved, dressed, fed, and cleaned me in the bathroom.

She became my nurse, wife, counselor, priest, only friend, and hero. Life hurled crap at us; people stealing our food and money, betrayals, and lies, yet she never complained.

Now, we have a two bedroom garden apartment. We are making plans to relocate. My recovery has been steady. With daily exercise, I’m regaining my strength.

I’ll never forget that difficult period and how she rescued me.

For three years, Allie had a hundred reasons to leave me.

And only one reason to stay.


Wedding photo of Allie with her nephew Alex taken May 30, 2009.


425 thoughts on “When My Wife Became My Hero

  1. And THAT is true love! Something many people don’t understand these days which is why so many marriages fail. It’s for better AND “for worse.” What a beautiful example the two of you have set. I hope years and years and years of blessings, love and happiness come into your lives!

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    1. Yes, my wife taught me all about true love. So many times, I thought she would get up and leave. She preferred to stay with me and risk homelessness than to be safe and warm without me.
      Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment. And thanks for your kind wishes. I appreciate that. Have a wonderful day.

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  2. I believe in the power of prayer too. God will never let you down. May your story continue to be a better one and may you and your wife always trust in Him.

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    1. Smiling. I learned about the power of faith and prayer. Whenever I look back at those difficult days, I am still amazed by the little miracles that blessed our lives. Thank you for taking out the time to read and comment. And thank you for kind words.

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  3. OH MY, this gave me goosebumps!! Such a lovely post and what a wonderful tribute to your dear wife! Yes, prayers are so Powerful, glad she knew that and just so happy for both of you! May blessings continue, but I know one thing, if another storm comes you 2 will make it through 🙂

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    1. She taught me the importance of faith and prayers. You made me smile. We are always saying we know we can weather any storm that comes our way. Those night mare days also taught me to be positive. Those bad days taught me the bad things in life are learning experiences. Thank you for your kind words.

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    1. Thank you. Yes, I am a very lucky man. Nowadays, most people would have packed their bags and ran, but she rstuck it out. Many followers have read my pro-women posts and romantic poetry, and they tell me my wife is lucky. I just wanted to set clarify who truly is the lucky one. Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment. Have a great day.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. Today, many couples tend to break up at the first sign of serious trouble. My wife was determined to stick it out. Thank you for dropping by to read and comment. Have a wonderful day.

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  4. So heartwarming, inspiring and loving! Here is proof that love exists! (Not that it requires any proof) It’s not a fictional concept after all! 😀 Hats off to your wife and to you!

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  5. When you met and married your wife you became one of the richest men on earth regardless of your circumstances. Thank you for sharing this beautiful love story. Prayers for your continued recovery – Lola

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    1. Thank you for your amazing comment. Yes, marrying her was my greatest achievement. I measure success differently after those two years and the things I watched her do. THank you for reading and thank you very much for those beautiful wishes. I appreciate it. Have a great day.

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    1. That Is a great story. Nowadays, most people prefer divorce rather making sacrifices or sticking out bad situations. We are both very lucky to have the spouses that we have. Thank you for stopping by to read, comment, and share your own story. I appreciate it. have a wonderful weekend.

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  6. Its amazing the strength that can be shown by the people we love when things get tough. Looks like you found yourself a diamond…take care of her! 🙂

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    1. That is exactly how I feel -I found a diamond. Today, so many relationships break up at the first sign of trouble. My wife was prepared to be homeless, but she was determined to stay by my side. I do my best to make her happy, she deserves that and more. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and comment with your kind words. I appreciate it. Have a wonderful day.

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  7. Reblogged this on Uniquely Designed Individuals and commented:
    God created women to be a helpmeet to compliment her spouse for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. What an awesome testimony about a woman who stood with her man through thick and thin. May God continually increase and multiply this couple who shine together as one. Shalom 🙂

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    1. Thank you. When he created woman, God created a wonderful gift. What is man without woman. I know I would have been lost without my wife. Thank you for taking the time out to read and contribute your wonderful comments. I appreciate your kind words and the reblog. Have a great day. Blsessings to you and yours.

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time out to read and comment. It was all true. That is why she is my hero. Sorry, for the delay in my response. I ahev recent problems with WordPress losing my messages then they suddenly reappear weeks later. Thanks and be well.

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  8. So much yearning, searching, and rising up. So full of gratitude and love. Your writing tells it all. (I bet your wife sees you as her hero too.) And what a rich life together you two must lead. Thank you for sharing your pain and your power.💫

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    1. Smiling. Honestly, yes she does. I encouraged her and taught her how to get around this big city. She adapted quickly and learned to defend herself, and her efforts kept us from being homeless. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate your kind words.

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      1. My pleasure! You are such an incredible writer. I hope (know) that one day (very soon) your books will get published (with Random House) and your outer life will be as rich and celebrated as your inner life.📕🎉

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  9. This is a Lovely, and Most Inspiring account. A REAL Living of the Marriage Vows. (People perhaps don’t even know the difference between a Vow and a promise). My Hearty Kudos and Salutations to Allie. …And, my Dear LA, You SHOULD No longer call Yourself the LA, what with Allie at Your side and All. Blunt man that I am, I would say that it would be an Insult to Your wife.

    Though I mention this late, my Heartfelt Sympathies on the Terrible effects of Your fall. Hope and Pray You have recovered fully from them. I Wish Both of You All the Very Best, and Regards. 🙂

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  10. Wow, what a testimony of God’s goodness and your wife’s strength and inner beauty. I’ve enjoyed reading so many of your posts, especially this one and the “Fragments of Me” stories. Continued blessings to you both!

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  11. After reading what you have been through I realize just how fortunate I have been. After my wife was laid off in Sept. of 08 and her unemployment benefits ran out we lost a third of our income. And came close to losing our home but were able to refinance. Last year I was out of work for 5-6 six weeks after reaching the point of being unable to deal with the bullying I’d been experiencing for years. Then at the end of 17 and beginning of 18 I lost another 5-6 weeks of work when one of my ribs popped out of its socket.
    Over all we are doing well even though things are still tight. I’m glad that you made it through the dark times and came out on the other side. I’m also glad that you had someone who understands that true love is a Choice that isn’t based on the fickleness of feelings who deliberately chose to stand by you come what may.
    Allie is true love personified! 🙂

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      1. Oh Yes I’ve seem the pictures of your wife.

        She is very lovely !

        Where is she from? 🙂

        I’ve been reading poems from top of to bottom.

        And occasionally clicking on one listed below that catches my eye.

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