Five Things I Learned By Studying Men (That The Women In My Life Admired)

When I was a kid my mother told me to study people.  You can learn so much by watching the habits of a winner.  Learn from the mistakes of losers so you don’t make them yourself.

I took this a step further.  I have always paid attention to the men the women in my life admired.

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5 – My mother admired Joe Namath. She wasn’t a football fan, but she admired the way Namath guaranteed the New York Jets would win the Super Bowl III and how he backed it up. She always told me a real man kept his word. Men need to be trusted and keeping your word is the best way to earn trust.

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4 – My BFF loves a man who can make her laugh. I believe no man should take himself TOO seriously. The ability to make light of oneself is important. Easing the tension in stressful moments can be a gift. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating a man be a clown. No woman admires that. My philosophy has always been if you can’t laugh at yourself, well, you have no right to laugh at anyone else. And a little laughter si always better than a whole lot of stress.

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3 – My Ex had to see every Kevin Costner movie that came out. What do women love about Kevin Costner? He portrays sensitive men, but he is always a MAN. A defender of women. Women hate wimpy whiney buffoons. Sure, they want a man to be sensitive to their needs, desires, good listeners, etc, but first and foremost, he needs to still be a man.

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2 – My daughter Catherine always had a crush for Johnny Castle (the male protagonist from Dirty Dancing). I think she still does. What can you learn from a fictional character? A whole lot about women. Every woman wants to be with a good man, yet they all admire and desire the bad boy. A little bad boy can also help keep the flames burning hopefully avoiding the dulling of romance.

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1 – Allie has a thing for the McDreamy character of Grey’s Anatomy played by Patrick Dempsey. The character Derek Shepherd is a neurosurgeon at a hospital in Seattle. Women appreciate intelligence. They love great conversation. Dumb jocks can be fun, but you have to talk sooner or later. DUH.  Intelligent, charming conversation is important to women.

And these are a few thing I have learned by studying the men the ladies in my life admire.

Thanks for reading.

Have a great weekend.

273 thoughts on “Five Things I Learned By Studying Men (That The Women In My Life Admired)

                    1. I wouldn’t miss one of your posts. Save all your notifications. Iam so far behind in my reading I expect to catch up tomorrow. The duet. Let me sort things out in my life. Before the end the summer. Start thinking of what you want to write about.

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  1. I learned a great deal about why and how you are so in tune with women. You work to be this great. Wonderful model for any man – be attentive to what your lover loves and respond in kind.
    Know what I love? A man who is a poet and who finds me to be the muse for his creations. Lucky Allie.

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  2. You have made some great observations! 😄
    All of these seem to be true. I will only add that it is good if a man can open up and show himself vulnerable, sometimes. Like show his own fear or sadness. (This seems really hard, for some men).
    Great list!
    💜

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    1. Thanks. Men refuse to demonstrate their vulernability. (Nor asking for directions). I think it is a false sense of bravado. Everyone has weaknesses and fears. So, why are men so worried about showing their vulernability. I will be honest with you. I have a strong fear of water (ocean, sea) and of flying. Admitting to that doesn’t make me any less a man. Happy you appreciated my list. Have a beautiful weekend.

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  3. Andrew!! I love this post! ❤️😊 this is very accurate! 😀 I need to show this to someone…he already knows, but it is an awesome post! Thank you! Have a great weekend! 😀

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    1. Awww, thanks. I believe most women admire these traits. A little of each of these traits without going overboard, and the ladt will be happy. You have a lovely weekend. I haven’t been in WordPress much this week. But I did save your email notifications, so I will get to your posts. Love talking to you. Have a great weekend.

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      1. You’re welcome, Andrew! These traits are definitely admirable! Can you forward this to every guy out there? Please and thank you! 😊 lol! Thank you – I hope this weekend is nice, working again! I’m a busy little bee…buzz!! Haha I save my notification e-mails too! Please, take your time getting to them – no rush! Hope you have a wonderful weekend and you and Allie will be able to have some fun! 😀 I love talking with you too! …even when you post scary things! 😊 LOL

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        1. LOL Love talking with you. We have a big party coming next week. So, we will be shopping for a new dress for Allie. Maybe go out for drinks in the evening. As for these traits, most men are dunces when it comes to relationships. All this crap about how hard it is to understand women. Be a great listener & observe the men she admires and you learn everything you need to know about her. I hope you have a great weekend.

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          1. Andrew! I think I almost missed this one! Oh no! Talking with you is quite lovely, I must concur! 😊 big party? That sounds like fun! Buying a new dress is always exciting! You should let her pick one and have it be a surprise the night of the party! Surprises are so great, well for most. 😀 Andrew, I love what you said about guys listening and observing male role models in a woman’s life, or males that she admires…it is so true. You are a very smart man! Can you teach a class or just open a charm school for ALL men?! Yes, please! Weekend was nice, finally got to enjoy a Saturday night out!!😀 the bartender made some very strong/good drinks! Hope yours was good too!

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            1. I think I almost missed this comment. I love surprises. Always try to have surpises for my mate. It makes life more interesting and breaks the routines. Hey, men need to learn how to be better spouses and role models. At least I hope to. Not wanting to pry in your personal life, but just curious are you that far from NYC? Don’t tell me where. Keep your privacy. Just curious if you are faraway.

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              1. Key word, Andrew…almost! 😀 that is so nice you like to surprise Allie, and I bet she loves them! I love giving surprises to a man, when I’m dating…it keeps things fun and entertaining! 😀 I’m actually not terribly far away… I could travel by train, bus, car, or plane…but then again, I can get anywhere by those modes of transportation! 😉 haha! Why? I can see the chimp’s wheels turning … Lol! 😀

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                  1. Aww that sounds nice, Andrew! Warm weather is the best! Love it! 😀 Meeting the chimp?…sounds like a definitely maybe possibility 😊

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                    1. No worries! I agree, meeting people from blogging would be pretty awesome! You are the first to say that. …well besides this one other person.

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                    2. Thank you, Andrew. 😊 That is sweet of you to say! I’ll be sure to tell all the boys that Andrew thinks I’m interesting and a sweetheart! 😀 it’s in the books!

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    1. You stunned me. I am so accustomed to your one word comments. LOL It appears I have hit a nerve. I agree with you. Social media has ruined romance. Men no longer know how to read a woman’s body language. The art of communication has also been lost. Now, men hide behind social media where they can be crude, rude, and fake. It must be frustrating for women. Where did all the real men go?

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      1. I think they’re in places where you are, or mostly offline in the real world. I do apologize my brief comments as of late. I’ve been battling some nasty migraines and I’m only now beginning to (hopefully) come to the end of it.

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          1. I know you were. But I do mean to be more supportive than I have been. I’ve had some more instances of these types of things happening on Instagram than here, it’s a nice escape to be among friends without wondering what will come next.

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                    1. The community on Instagram is messed up. Some people are good, some attract drama like white on bread. I seem to be a pillar, and I’m trying to change it in a positive way. I’m seriously considering closing my Facebook.

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  4. You said it well here, my dear. Your mother is right just as my mother said the same thing to me as well about studying people. And that was what she always do and then she would points out and whispered to me what she thinks she believed to see and analysed. I learned a lot from here.

    Years later as I get older and wiser, plus that I myself a parent, I taught the same thing to all of my children, especially now I have a near 19 years old daughter, who always seem to have good taste in boys. She chose wisely and learn quicker by experiences and she understand things in her own way. I hope she stays that way and that I won’t have too worry too much!

    My mother did once asked me whom and what kind of men I admire? I told her, Richard Gere! LOL She just smiled.
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    1. Smiling. Richard Gere was a hunk. My mother always told me try to learn from the mistakes of others. It really is wise. Learn from successful people. Learn from the mistakes of others. It ios wise to pass this onto your daughter. Thanks for stopping by to read and comment. Have a lovely weekend.

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  5. I don’t like any of them, especially Kevin Costner. You have your own strengths and is far better to work on developing them, rather than trying to copy other (especially fictional) men.

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    1. Understood. I don’t try to copy any of these men. But it is good to recognize what your partner admires/needs. I don’t think they broke the mold when they made me, I believe they made me from the broken mold. lol Thank you for stopping by to read and comment.

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  6. Good conversation, honesty, a sense of humour, an enthusiastic and attentive lover, a bit of bad boy to keep things spicy and a hero through and though. Yep. We don’t want much haha.

    I don’t want to be fighting for space on the bathroom shelf for face products but then I didn’t grow up with Metro Man who puts tanning lotion on 😉

    I’d happily and gratefully sacrifice a high wage earner every time for a man who can give a good foot massage.

    Luckily for me I have finally found such a man and live with him. He doesn’t buy me glittery presents to show his love. Instead he treats me like a goddess and with respect, works many hours to look after the family, grows food to feed us, spends quality time with me and is attentive. He also brings me chocolate and gives great foot massages 🙂

    When you get to my age, you realise what is really important in a relationship – it isn’t the shoes they wear, the size of their bank account or whether other women find them attractive – it’s how they make you feel every day by the way they treat you.

    I wish I had thought more about this in my ‘yoof’ but it comes with the experience of being with a few frogs and realising what is important and not superficial 🙂

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    1. There is so much I want to say. Hope I don’t forget anything. First, I believe ladies should meet a few frogs so they can appreciate a prince when he finally arrives. How a man treats you is mich more important than all the other stuff. Does he treat you well. Respect you and listen to you. Are you an equal. All of these things are important to a healthy relationship. You made me smile cause I am a foot massage kind of guy myself. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and contribute your thoughts to the conversation. Have a wonderful weekend. Thanks for stopping by.

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  7. Nice list and insights. The one about Costner really got me thinking. Mostly about how he’s an actor that appeals to both genders, which is something an author should aim for with characters. As usual, seems to be all about balance.

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    1. Good point Charles. His characters appeal to both genders. Manly yet he still reflects enough sensitivity. I will make a note of that observation. It could only make us better writers. Thanks Charles. Have a good weekend.

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                1. Not being snotty at all. lol Thise Bears one of the best defenses in NFL history. And if you think I am laughing because they haven’t won since 1985. Well, we have to go back to 1969 and Joe Namath to talk about the Jets only Super Bowl. So, trust me I wasn’t being snotty.

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                    1. That was unfair. I am honest about my teams. Jets haven’t won since 1969. My Yankees stink. My Rangers are pretty good. Now, don’t talk to me about the cheating Patriots or Red Sox, then I lose me head.

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    1. Exactly. I am not trying to say a man should copy any particular person or style. But learning some of these traits and making it ones own and delivering it in your own natural style has to make the man more diserable to women. Thank you.

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    1. I know. Today’s man has lost the art of conversation. Good conversation is so important. For example, I can chat here with you for HOURS and never get tired. You give great conversation and I wish they would never end. I blame it on social media.

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        1. You’re laughing about it but I am serious. All my life I have ridden trains. Hung out in a few bars, too. I learned to read women’s body language. It used to be if you wanted to spend a passionate evening of romance with a woman, men tried to win them with charm and great conversation. Now in this hook up generation there is no charming women. Just slam bam. I think that is less fun. Maybe I am just a dinosaur.

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  8. Hmm… I have to be a trustworthy, macho bad boy with a sensitive side, a sense of humor and penetrating intelligence. Since I’m competing with the likes of Patrick Dempsey and Kevin Costner, I presumably should be good-looking too. I think you may have set the bar a little high for me this time. I’m on about two and a half out of six.

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  9. Wonderful list! I’ve always been a Kevin Costner fan for the very reasons you mention! He has that balance of masculine charm and sensitivity without being wimpy. I’ve never been able to figure out what men want, however… 😀

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          1. I look u already on d beach bt in shadaow n unable to see ur face.why do u not expose ur face?i think-ur face is like chimp.lol.bt why beauty qeen Allie will like n love u?some speciality i.e.blue eyed,brown hair n lenght of body ,u will ha ve these personality and too intoxicated eyes with always smiling in ur lonely corner.m i right.?

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              1. Coz brown eyes seem beautiful bt deceitful.bt i believe-u can not decieve anyone as i read ur poem.i think dt ur brown eyes is not like a cat.sharbati teri aankhon ki jheel si gahraai me main doob jata hun as Allie.

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  10. Great advice from your mom, even though she probably just liked Namath’s tight pants. Just teasing. I think you hit a lot of the important ones. I have to add that I’m a big fan of men who are good with kids (father or not). There’s something special about a man who can express the overt gentleness and love that kids need, put his needs second, and simply play. 😀

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    1. LOL Very good point. A man who has time and patience for children is a plus. Thank you for contributing your thought to this post. And regarding Namath and his tight pants, I suspect you are right. lol Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend.

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  11. The essence of this lovely top 5 list is to fine someone who has a well-rounded character. It is so hard not to be convinced an attractive package does not mean special person on the inside. I married three times men who seemed to fit me, while they used wonderful illustrations of their inner qualities through words. I am not sure media can take full responsibility for mistakes in judgment. I spent four years in college with my first husband but didn’t live with him. This is another “true test” of a “real man,” pitching in and being a team player! The bedroom is only one room in an apartment or house. . .

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    1. Oh, now you are going to get me upset and ranting. The household chores are called housework. Not wife work or women’s work. Housework to be shared by those who live in the house. I think too many people place too much importance on the shell and not enough emphasis on the person inside. Thanks for readign and contributing your thoughts. Hope you and yours have a wonderful weekend.

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      1. So, you aren’t upset with me, I hope? ❤ I am sure you like to have fun in the various rooms, including cooking and making a house homey. This was not meant to mean anything else but add to your great list, dependable, trustworthy, happy with a sense of humor, good conversationalist and your foot massages plus warm personality are plenty to offer. Just need to find this combination while I become better at joking. Smiles, Robin

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        1. Not at all. Marriage is never about one room. You can have fun in all rooms. But there is work to be done and I really believe it should be shared. Allie cooks and I wash dishes & clean the kitchen. She does laundry. I fold and put away the clothes. I was serious. Gun and work needs to be shared. LOL I know you are a gem. You will find your perfect mate.

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  12. Andrew, this is an awesome post. Every point is valid, written with intelligence and wit. I found myself smiling throughout, so true, so true! Allie is very lucky! Wishing both of you a lovely late Saturday evening and Sunday. Take good care. ~ Mia

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