an imperfect flower (For All Women)

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“Real beauty is in the fragility of your petals. A rose that never wilts isn’t a rose at all.” – Crystal Woods, author, stage coach, pro bikini athlete, child abuse advocate.

When I think of this Inspiring Woman of WordPress , I think of delicate flowers. As a little girl, she admired the prairies. As a young woman she overcame adversity and bloomed into a Costume Designer dressing the stars of film & television. That is the inspiring story of my precious friend Resa at Art Gowns. To see videos of her stunning creations click here. Her beautiful sketches & sweet personality always touches my soul. Resa doesn’t make gowns, she creates wearable poetry.

an imperfect flower

an imperfect flower
grows in a flawless garden
forever afraid to bloom
ashamed of her weather-beaten stem
and frail leaves
she fails to understand
her damaged petals
are what makes her beautiful
to me

311 thoughts on “an imperfect flower (For All Women)”

    1. Laughing my head off. I should give out cash prizes for the first person to comment on my posts.

      That is exactly what this poem is about. Thank you for reading and for your perfect words. Thank you so much John. Truly appreciate your words and support.

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  2. Wonderful poem. You’ve articulated an understanding of beauty that I don’t believe is not very well understood by most people. Resa creates such beauty. She makes everything she touches magical, passionate, full of fun, and overflowing with imagination.

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    1. Grateful for your lovely words of support. I believe most women don’t understand or choose not to understand this reality. So happy you appreciate this piece.

      Resa, is wonderful. Very inspiring. Very talented. Wonderful person.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Appreciate your lovely message.

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    1. Isha you are too wonderful. Thank you for your beautiful words and support. You are one of these Inspring Women that I talk about.

      I have other messages from you. I will be getting to the soon. Thank you for your patience.

      Bless you for this wonderful support. I feel so lucky to know you.

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      1. Oh I’m over la Luna! Thank you so much for being so kind, Drew.

        Work rules me these days and leaves little time to visit blogs – but yours – I just can’t miss!
        P.S. loved the post on your super cute godson!

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  8. Wow, Resa is so talented, I had only seen her art collaborations with Charlie and did not realise she made these gowns as well.

    The whole sentiment of this post and poem, celebrating women, for their talents, adversities and flaws, is simply beautiful. And the poem… it’s words like these that allows flowers to bloom. Lost for words. It’s beautiful.

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    1. Rachel, it is our flaws that make us humble and beautiful. I really believe that. We shouldn’t focus on the negative as much as we do. And I believe women are so guilty of this. Advertising, magazines, Hollywood paint this pictures of how women should be and appear. Screw that.

      Everyone has flaws. They make us unique and interesting

      Resa, is so talented. I have so much fun with her. She is sweet and inspiring.

      Thank you for your wonderful and much too generous praise. You are wonderful. Thank you.

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      1. The praise is well deserved Drew, honestly, if more people thought like you, the world would be a more beautiful place. I think you have evoked a collective sigh with this poem and tribute to Resa and her work. You certainly got one from me xo

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          1. I bet that dawn was stunning. I could turn every one of those words around and they would describe how I feel about you perfectly
            “So gratefUl for your graciousness and gentle way.
            You are so inspiring.”

            Can’t say it better than the lonely author. Have a great evening, I hope the sunset was/is as beautiful and slow as the dawn.

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    1. Aaaw, touching your heart is a beautiful thing. Embracing their flaws. Yes that is what love and even friendship are all about.

      Thank.you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. So appreciate your words. Thanks.

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  11. Congratulations on that absolutely precious godson!
    I adore this wonderful tribute to my amazing friend Resa. A truly beautiful soul and lovely woman who is always true to herself, kind and generous beyond words. I can’t praise Resa enough, she is a shining star with the energy of the Ever Ready Bunny. She is awesome, thank you Drew.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. So happy with that little bundle of love.
      Resa is amazing. Can’t say enough kind things about her. She’s talented, inspiring, and truly wonderful in so many ways.
      So it was an easy tribute for some I admire so much.
      Thank you Holly.

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  12. Dear Lonely,
    I see an imperfect flower here, yet more, I see the imperfect bouquet.
    You have done a great lovely for me, and I’m ineffable upon a sentence of gratitude.
    As you have said, “for all women”…. and I am one.

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    1. Resa, my dear. When I think of you and chat with you I think of a perfect flower. You are the entire package of wonderfulness. You really can do it all.

      For all women….yes you are one. An amazing one, that should never doubt herself. That is ty he message I am trying to convey to all.

      Happy you were pleased. I did worry about this post. I wanted it to be beautiful for you.

      Xoxoxo

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      1. Very pleased! You say my Art Gowns are wearable poetry. I say your poetry is as beautiful, and wearable as any Art Gowns,
        Well Lonely, it seems we can wear poetry!
        Thank you so much for this wonderful experience!

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  13. Reblogged this on Art Gowns and commented:
    How sweet it is!
    Dear Lonely has honoured me, and all women with this imperfect flower.
    I consider it a bouquet, and hope all my sisters will share in its fragrance.
    Please comment on Lonely’s blog! xo

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  14. This is a great poem reminding us of the beauty of embracing our imperfections. You’ve penned a beautiful tribute to Resa and all who think less of themselves. Who wouldn’t love a friend who writes love poems to lift us up and remind us of our beauty. This series of posts featuring women who inspire you is a wonderful gift to us all. Thank you Drew.

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    1. Brad, you nailed it. Everyone (not only women) should embrace our imperfections.
      It is what makes us unique and truly fascinating. I guess most men don’t worry about it as much, but I know many women do. And it sad and nfair that they are so harsh on themselves. Life is too short to worry about this little blemish or that little defect. Just love yourself.

      Resa is amazing. I love the gowns she creates. And beyond that she is a wonderful woman. Caring, sweet, with a brilliant heart.

      Humbled and grateful you are enjoying this series. I was unsure how it would be received. Very glad it appears many are happy with it. I am thrilled to post them and honestly, honored that these inspiring women have given me the chance to
      highlight their brilliance. I am a lucky dude.

      Thank you for your beautiful words and support.
      It is greatly appreciated and welcomed.
      You are a treasure my friend.

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    1. I do see Resa’s gowns as more than just gowns. With every stitch she pours her heart and soul, and creative
      imagination into them. They are beautiful. Her passion inspires me very much.

      Your kind words are so appreciated. Happy you liked my little poem. I thought it was simple, but fitting
      for the post. Thank you for your wonderful appreciation. It made me so happy.
      Thanks.

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    1. You have me blushing. Thank you for this wonderful message. Very generous with your praise.
      Hmbled and grateful that you shared your thoughts. Thank you for your kindness and support.
      I feel like such a lucky guy.

      Appreciate your sweet words. They made my beautiful morning that much sweeter.

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  20. Yes, Resa is a beautiful woman inside and out.
    Her gowns are stunning and unique. A perfect dress for any princess.
    In addition, she manages to take us along on her graffiti photographic adventures.
    A most encouraging poem for all women, Drew. Nicely composed !
    Isadora😎

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    1. Humbled by your beautiful words and praise. Thank you for your kind appreciation.
      It made a beautiful morning even more beautiful.
      Women deserve all the praise and support we can give them.
      Grateful and flattered by your wonderful comments.
      And so happy.
      Thank you for that.

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    1. So happy and grateful that you think so. Thank you for your wonderful words. They made me so happy.

      Resa, oh what can I say. I just think she is so amazing. Talented, thoughtful, and everything a woman should be.

      Thank you for sharing your kind thoughts. They are so appreciated.

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    2. Thank you, Jane! I am so honoured to be included in Lonely’s tributes to the Women of WordPress. There are so many of us beautiful ladies out here, that I think he will be busy for a long while!

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  24. And this gentle heart, soul and deep, TRUE emotion you placed in your poem; this one of a kind way that you possess of really *seeing* a woman which floors me every day, the way you craft and create your poetry with imagery that only you can pen and with such such profound love, is what makes YOU beautiful.
    I missed you.

    Your,

    Fiery
    ♥

    (Beautiful tribute to your friend Resa. She is a superb talent)

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    1. Fiery,

      So floored by your humbling words. Touched beyond belief. That is thew way I see women. That is the way I want to treat them.
      Not to say they are helpless or inferior in any way. Just want to recognize their gentleness, their caring ways, their ability
      to give and give, often getting nothing in return. Womanhood always amazes me.

      Only I can pen….oh my God, you are way to generous and sweet.

      You make me shake my head with your beautiful words and appreciation.

      Resa is a beautiful woman (inside and out) and an amazing talent.

      I missed you, too. You must be the postman….you deliver smiles.
      Thank you for this generous comment and kind words. They are gems
      here on my blog. Grateful and flattered.
      And always appreciated.

      Lonely Author
      xoxoxo

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  25. Drew, what a touching and sweet tribute once again! I love Resa´s art gowns, and you described them perfectly as wearable poetry! Looking at those gowns and sketches evokes feelings of wonder and excitement about the power of imagination and creativity in me…It almost transports me into a way of viewing the world through the eyes of a child… there is an ethereal quality to Resa´s art that I truly appreciate. And love your celebration and appreciation of vulnerability and imperfection – that truly is something we need to remember and integrate into our worldview, I find…. Gracias Drew! And congrats on your cute little Axel! Abrazotes xox

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    1. Maria Elena, her gowns and passion do the exact same thing to me. They get me so excited and inspired.
      Her dresses are art.

      Axel cute not sure about the little. 9 pounds. I never felt such a heavy newborn. lol

      Thank you for your beautiful words and appreciation for Resa and her amazing work.
      You are so amazing too.
      Gracias. Abrazos. xo

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      1. Ah gracias! You are such a charmer 😎 Thanks sweetheart. Love your love for womankind! Lol, you make Axel sound like the perfect human weightlifting device: Cute, cuddly, yet heavy 😀

        Wishing you a supercalifragilisticexpialidocious day on the other side of the ocean 🙂 Abrazos y cuidate xoxo

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        1. Smiling. Yes, Axel is a big bundle of love. I am coming back to the island in Spring to baptize him.
          Amigo, have the most wonderful evening.
          Oh, and by the way, I mention you on my post tomorrow as one of the inspiring women of wordpress.
          I will be flying back home to Florida.
          Havew a wonderful day.
          Cuidate. xoxo

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          1. Awww amigo, what a fantastic and unexpected surprise you are gifting me with again!! Am over the moon and feel so humbled and honored that you would mention me on your oasis-of-love and place of honoring the feminine-site again. I am lost for words querido!! You are so sweet. I can´t currently comment on your new post, so am just thanking you here for all your incredible kindness:) I am really touched!!

            I am so proud of you for having ventured away from home for so long for the first time, isn´t that an amazing experience? 🙂 Hope you had a safe and relaxed flight (now I sound like a pilot lol). Also, querido, dejame decir – am so happy for you to hear about what you wrote regarding your head and heart being in sync!! Que bien!!! Btw, my happiest moments have not always been when I was in relationships, but when I was at peace with myself..independent from being partnered up or not….and surrounded by nature. You are surely living your purpose through your fantastic work of love here, and may I say- I believe you never ever failed your mum….Maybe her role was to inspire you to do exactly this type of work you are doing now… through her path, which was her choice, and never yours, though…we can´t always protect the ones we love…but your work now casts a symbolic shield of love and protection around all those you bless with your loving words…and many more who read them:) Gracias de nuevo, sending you so much love! xoxoxo

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          2. Also – great image!!! Looks really good my friend. And beautiful song and quotes. Funny “coincidence” – that quote about the 16 inches between the head and the heart is one of my favorite quotes ever!! 🙂 And you picked that song perfectly…it´s all about having the courage to begin again in life…in small and big ways… I love all about your post! You made my week! Much love y disfruta tu dia xoxoxo

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  26. Oh yes, imperfection is perfection. Your poem is exquisite Drew and another glorious testament to woman’s beauty and fragility. Resa sounds incredibly talented and inspiring. 🧡

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    1. I like that phrase. Imperfection is perfection.

      Happy you liked this Miriam. Women need to stop beting themselves up over this little thing or that.
      Live and enjoy and be happy.

      Resa is a darling. Talented, sweet, passionate about her work. Very inspiring.

      Thank you for your beautioful words and praise.
      Your thoughts always makes me smile.
      Thank you for always sharing them,
      Grateful for your kindness and support.

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      1. You’re very welcome my friend and I couldn’t agree more with your words Drew “live and enjoy and be happy”. Life’s too short not to live like this. So glad I can make you smile. xx

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    1. You made me smile with this comment. It should be plastered over all those billboards making women feel
      as if they have to act and look perfect. Society, the media, Hollywood, the fashion world have given women
      unfair standards and expectations.

      Thank you for your wonderful appreciation and toughtful words. Your kindness and support are always treasured.
      Very grateful.

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  28. This poem reflects how a lot of people view themselves in society. Feeling as though they’re surrounded by ‘perfect’ people, living perfect lives, and they want to fit in and feel accepted, but insecurity holds them back. Beautifully written Andrew.

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  29. Hmmm! Have you ever thought of cloning yourself? Seriously Andrew, we need more people who can appreciate flawed beauty. We lay unnecessary emphasis on perfection. Beautiful words as always and thank you for the introduction to another lovely woman.

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    1. Cloning myself. Laughing so hard.
      If we were all perfect there would be no beauty. It is our imperfections that make us all different
      and unique. And that is where our true beauty lies.

      Thank you for your beautiful words and the laugh. Always treasured. You are a sweetheart.

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    1. Oh my God. What a beautiful thing to say. I wrked so hard on this post to find the right words to
      make it fit her and you give me this comment. Thank you so much. I don’t think Resa truly realizes
      how wonderful and talented she is.

      Hopefully, comments like your will help her see the light aboiut what a wonderful human being and
      woman she is.

      Thank you for shariong your thoughts. I will always treasure them.

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      1. I know you worked very hard on this post, Andrew, because you nailed it on Resa. She is in my eyes one of the most beautiful and decent and talented women I have the privilege to know. You should be so proud of yourself for what you accomplished here. We who have had harsh beginnings in life, tend not to see what others see in us. Bless your heart for helping Resa see the perfection we see in her. (((HUGS)))!!! xo

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      1. Drew,
        Havens are personalized places that are different for everyone. However, the characteristics of the different havens have a lot in common. Glad you enjoyed this and thanks for walking along.

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    1. A great description of women. Fragile and beautifully strong. Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts.
      Sadly, so many women don’t realize how strong or beautiful they really are. I wish all women were encouraged to
      bloom.

      Your generous praise makes me so happy. You are too kind and generous with your compliments.
      Thank you for sharing your warm thoughts. You make me feel blessed. Grateful.

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      1. I feel you deserve kind and generous compliments, as not many men feel this way about women and it is joyful to see a man want to see women be able to raise to their full potential not knocked down for wanting their own happiness. You are a true Gem and I hope you know that! 😊

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        1. Aaaaw That is a sweet thing to say. Women need to soar. Holding a woman back serves o purpose. I have lost girlfriends because I taught them to have confidence and grow. And I guess they just outgrew their need for me. But I still think it is a beautiful thing.

          Thank you for your flattering words. Truly humbled.

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              1. Your very welcome and I am pleased I could make you smile as a many days as I read your work I get to smile to my core, thankful to know there are still good men out there somewhere! So I thank you for that seedling of hope that you give me with your beauty that you share!

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  38. Oh !! In small poem,you have said so much pithy thing.are you have any treasure of amazing words and beautiful imagination.”…..her damaged petal what make her beautiful to me.”really so much that flower is innocent without knowing her beauty.”….. so much afraid to bloom,ashamed to weather beaten stem…..”wonderful expression the feelings of an imperfect flower.my dear friend!! Really you are a unique poet who can tell the summary of all events happend in the life naturally.gorgeaous,my dear!!
    Introduction of Rosa is most beautiful.just now,i saw her blog.an unique designer of most beautiful gowns.if i may be in USA or European countries then i buy all gowns.you are saying true -Resa doesn’t make the gowns,she creates wearable poetry.most beautiful lines for her and your tiny poem like your beautiful hut.hey dew.!! your that little hut has the basement where you hide your treasure of beautiful and lovely words.❤💕💕💝💕

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  39. *here is typing error.i want to write the word “Resa”,who is much creative minded and inspires to shattering the beauty everywhere.say her my lovely regard.

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  40. My dear dew!!where are my comments on your this post?plz reply.are you angry with me.? I think -you can be angry with me as i.yesterday has gone with all headaches.now here,only today stands and waits for you reply.

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  41. Say my love and kiss to lovely angel Axel. I am going to sleep because of fever/flu.can not wait any more,my dear!!sorry for that.xoxo⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘

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  43. An imperfect flower…ashamed and afraid…yes, you nailed it perfectly. I wish I could see the beauty in my imperfections and vulnerability, but it’s hard to keep seeing it when the world keeps chipping away at my self esteem. Nevertheless, your poetry always soothes my heart. Thank you Drew xoxoxo

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    1. Big sigh. Sorry, I nailed it perfectly. I wish I wrote these poems of loss, longing, insecurity and pain,
      and no one could relate to it. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you didn’t relate to it Melissa. You
      are a flower that needs to forever bloom.

      Life, the world, they keep chipping away at all of us. Sometimes it feel as if breathing is a challenge.
      So imagine the beating our self esteem must endure.

      Grateful you said my poetry soothes your heart. It makes me feel like I am accomplishing something when
      I write. Your words always soothes my soul. Thank you for your beautiful message. Every single one.
      xoxo

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      1. You accomplish more than you know. I don’t think you quite understand how your words help to heal and give hope to so many hearts. Thank you, dear friend. Sometimes your sweet words are the best part of my week. xoxoxo

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    1. I agree with you one hundred percent. All women are beautiful. And I believe so many fail to see this beauty.
      A wilted dandelion. You made me smile. Don’t be harsh on yourself. I bet you are blooming as beautiful as any
      flower.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I am grateful for your kind words and support.

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  46. Considering all the crazy beauty standards us women are fed and having our self-worth attached solely to our looks by some, this is truly beautiful writing. Warmth and fuzziness in my tummy ensued from the last line of this. Wonderful as always you lovely man! 😀💝

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    1. Blushing at this gorgeous comment. You are oo sweet. Yes, the media, Hollywood, etc. put to many unfair standards on women. Women are force fed these ideas on how they are supposed to look, and even act.

      We are all broken in some way. I just wish women would accept the idea they don’t have to be a super model or perfect or a size 4. I wish they would love themselves as they are and understand that a man wo truly loves them, will love them as they are as well.

      Thank you for your beautiful words. Honestly, so flattered. Thank you.

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      1. So much, it’s insane 😨 Because of that it takes a lot of work and undoing 25+ years of this stuff being force fed us through billboards and sexism.
        You’re very welcome, sweetie 😊 Need to give credit where credit is due, of course! 😀 xx

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