When My Wife Became My Hero
When Allie arrived in the United States, we decided instead of working she would get her degree.
Life is what happens while you’re making other plans.
Soon after her arrival, I lost my job. The following year, we depleted our savings and faced eviction.
Then I slipped and fell down a flight of stairs.
Sitting in the emergency room, I looked at my frightened bride; new to this intimidating city, with no knowledge of English.
Our survival depended on her.
Thus began our nightmare. Her relatives (cousins & aunts) suggested she leave me, then, they stopped communicating with her. My friends disappeared.
We lost everything we owned.
On three occasions we went to bed thinking we would be homeless the next day. All three times as I researched homeless shelters my bride shocked me by finding a temporary job and a place for us to live.
One Friday night in October 2013, we had zero money and an empty fridge. I wasn’t scheduled to receive my benefit money until Monday.
Honestly, I thought my bride had lost her mind. As our grumbling stomachs roared she prayed.
Minutes later, she said she needed air. Barely one hundred feet out of the building, we found twenty eight dollars.
That same scenario repeated itself twice in 2014.
In 2015 I had two surgeries (right retina and cervical spine). For a few months I lost use of my arms. Allie bathed, shaved, dressed, fed, and cleaned me in the bathroom.
She became my nurse, wife, counselor, priest, only friend, and hero. Life hurled crap at us; people stealing our food and money, betrayals, and lies, yet she never complained.
Now, we have a two bedroom garden apartment. We are making plans to relocate. My recovery has been steady. With daily exercise, I’m regaining my strength.
I’ll never forget that difficult period and how she rescued me.
For three years, Allie had a hundred reasons to leave me.
And only one reason to stay.
Wedding photo of Allie with her nephew Alex taken May 30, 2009.
What an inspiring story. All the best both of you.
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Thank you so much for taking the time out to read and comment. I appreciate your kind words and your good wishes. Thank you.
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And THAT is true love! Something many people don’t understand these days which is why so many marriages fail. It’s for better AND “for worse.” What a beautiful example the two of you have set. I hope years and years and years of blessings, love and happiness come into your lives!
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Yes, my wife taught me all about true love. So many times, I thought she would get up and leave. She preferred to stay with me and risk homelessness than to be safe and warm without me.
Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment. And thanks for your kind wishes. I appreciate that. Have a wonderful day.
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Wow! An incredible story of Love and Commitment! How did you meet your wife? (Perhaps you have that story on another post?)
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A mutual friend introduced us. It started as a long distance romance and worked out well. Thanks for reading and your comments.
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Sweet! And thanks for viewing my strange photo posts!
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lol. I love following photographers. Always so many interesting shots.
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Me too! Jane Lurie is one of my favourites … https://janeluriephotography.wordpress.com/2018/02/10/nature-people-california-coast/
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I believe in the power of prayer too. God will never let you down. May your story continue to be a better one and may you and your wife always trust in Him.
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Smiling. I learned about the power of faith and prayer. Whenever I look back at those difficult days, I am still amazed by the little miracles that blessed our lives. Thank you for taking out the time to read and comment. And thank you for kind words.
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I’m a practicing Catholic. I’ve had this instilled in me from birth. 😉
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My wife Allie taught me this during our crisis. Thanks for stopping by. God bless.
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Inspiring!!
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Thank you so much for reading and saying that.
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OH MY, this gave me goosebumps!! Such a lovely post and what a wonderful tribute to your dear wife! Yes, prayers are so Powerful, glad she knew that and just so happy for both of you! May blessings continue, but I know one thing, if another storm comes you 2 will make it through 🙂
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She taught me the importance of faith and prayers. You made me smile. We are always saying we know we can weather any storm that comes our way. Those night mare days also taught me to be positive. Those bad days taught me the bad things in life are learning experiences. Thank you for your kind words.
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You are welcome! 🙂 Sounds like you grew wise through all this 🙂
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Smiling. I like to think so. Enjoy your Saturday.
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She is beautiful. You’re a lucky man to have found a woman that believes in love.
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Thank you. Yes, I am a very lucky man. Nowadays, most people would have packed their bags and ran, but she rstuck it out. Many followers have read my pro-women posts and romantic poetry, and they tell me my wife is lucky. I just wanted to set clarify who truly is the lucky one. Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment. Have a great day.
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What a lovely woman she is. It takes more strength to stay and work through the difficult times.
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Thank you so much for your kind words. Today, many couples tend to break up at the first sign of serious trouble. My wife was determined to stick it out. Thank you for dropping by to read and comment. Have a wonderful day.
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You as well!
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Thanks
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So heartwarming, inspiring and loving! Here is proof that love exists! (Not that it requires any proof) It’s not a fictional concept after all! 😀 Hats off to your wife and to you!
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Thank you so much for saying that. During those tough times I silently wondered how long she would stick around. She surprised a lot of people. Thank you for reading and for your kind words.
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Thank you for posting! It is obviously my good fortune to come across this post ☺ Did she surprise herself?
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Funny you should ask that. None else did. Her family douted her. Honestly, I had my doubts & so did she. She learned about herself. She never realized how strong she was.
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We often realise our potential when we go through tough times…Your wife and you are an inspiring couple 🙂
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Thank you for saying that. Have a great weekend.
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Thank you, you too 😊
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Thanks
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When you met and married your wife you became one of the richest men on earth regardless of your circumstances. Thank you for sharing this beautiful love story. Prayers for your continued recovery – Lola
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Thank you for your amazing comment. Yes, marrying her was my greatest achievement. I measure success differently after those two years and the things I watched her do. THank you for reading and thank you very much for those beautiful wishes. I appreciate it. Have a great day.
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I hope you have a great day as well!
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That’s how I felt about my husband when we pulled up stakes in Colorado to care for my parents in Alabama. Through thick and thin, I couldn’t love the man more.
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That Is a great story. Nowadays, most people prefer divorce rather making sacrifices or sticking out bad situations. We are both very lucky to have the spouses that we have. Thank you for stopping by to read, comment, and share your own story. I appreciate it. have a wonderful weekend.
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Your love is strong….be together and happy always. Best wishes.
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Thank you for so much for stopping by to read and comment. I appreciate your kind words and wishes. Thanks.
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Your wife is an incredible woman. I hope you always remember her sacrifice and treat her accordingly. All the best to you both.
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Smiling. Thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words amd wishes. Thanks
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Its amazing the strength that can be shown by the people we love when things get tough. Looks like you found yourself a diamond…take care of her! 🙂
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That is exactly how I feel -I found a diamond. Today, so many relationships break up at the first sign of trouble. My wife was prepared to be homeless, but she was determined to stay by my side. I do my best to make her happy, she deserves that and more. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and comment with your kind words. I appreciate it. Have a wonderful day.
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Reblogged this on Uniquely Designed Individuals and commented:
God created women to be a helpmeet to compliment her spouse for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. What an awesome testimony about a woman who stood with her man through thick and thin. May God continually increase and multiply this couple who shine together as one. Shalom 🙂
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Thank you. When he created woman, God created a wonderful gift. What is man without woman. I know I would have been lost without my wife. Thank you for taking the time out to read and contribute your wonderful comments. I appreciate your kind words and the reblog. Have a great day. Blsessings to you and yours.
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A pleasure, and thank you for sharing God’s gift with us that He gave to you 🙂 stay blessed 🙂
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Thank you.
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Wow. Incredible woman, and you’ve had your share of challenges, Andrew. No words for what you guys have been through. But you pulled through!
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Yes, we pulled through thanks to her. Nowadays, not all couples stivk it out. So, I am very lucky. Thanks for reafin and for your sweet comments. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Wow…great story!
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Thank you so much for taking the time out to read and comment. It was all true. That is why she is my hero. Sorry, for the delay in my response. I ahev recent problems with WordPress losing my messages then they suddenly reappear weeks later. Thanks and be well.
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So much yearning, searching, and rising up. So full of gratitude and love. Your writing tells it all. (I bet your wife sees you as her hero too.) And what a rich life together you two must lead. Thank you for sharing your pain and your power.💫
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Smiling. Honestly, yes she does. I encouraged her and taught her how to get around this big city. She adapted quickly and learned to defend herself, and her efforts kept us from being homeless. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate your kind words.
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My pleasure! You are such an incredible writer. I hope (know) that one day (very soon) your books will get published (with Random House) and your outer life will be as rich and celebrated as your inner life.📕🎉
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Wow you have stunned me with your comments. You humble me with your words. Thank you so much.
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😊😊
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Oh my goodness, life was harsh to you both but thank goodness you found each other (and the $28).
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Smiling. My wife was pulling miracles for us. Her determination and God saved us.
Thank you for reading and for your kind words. Appreciated.
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That is quite a post, life can really put us through a lot of stress sometimes
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Life can be a challenge. We have to accept these learning experiences that are placed before us.
Thankfully, I have a good wife who was determined to take good care of me. Thank you for reading.
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This is a Lovely, and Most Inspiring account. A REAL Living of the Marriage Vows. (People perhaps don’t even know the difference between a Vow and a promise). My Hearty Kudos and Salutations to Allie. …And, my Dear LA, You SHOULD No longer call Yourself the LA, what with Allie at Your side and All. Blunt man that I am, I would say that it would be an Insult to Your wife.
Though I mention this late, my Heartfelt Sympathies on the Terrible effects of Your fall. Hope and Pray You have recovered fully from them. I Wish Both of You All the Very Best, and Regards. 🙂
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Really Breath-taking! …This is a Lovely, and Most Inspiring account. A REAL Living of the Marriage Vows. (People perhaps don’t even know the difference between a Vow and a promise). My Hearty Kudos and Salutations to Allie.
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Thank you so much for taking the time out to read, comment, and reblog. I appreciate that. Yes, women need to learn about the power they possess. Thanks.
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And Women have to be Appreciated More! 🙂
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I agree 100%
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PS: The photograph is Not opening. Please do something about it. Would like to see You All! Hearty Regards. 🙂
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Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate that.
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Thank You.
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I have been to the depths too and my wife has pulled me out each time. We are lucky!
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Yes, we are. The most important decision a man can make in his life is choosing the right woman. Thank you so much for reading. Be well.
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That’s a keeper right there. She sounds amazing.
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Thanks so much for this kind gesture.
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That is a powerful story. It has so many resonances for me. Thank you for sharing and wishing both of you many long years of happiness, each one better than the last.
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I forgot all about this post. Thank you for reading it and for your comments. Much appreciated.
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What an interesting story! Sounds like you have a wonderful wife. Hang in there… the best is yet to come!
Dwight
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Wow, I just love your story. That’s what true love looks like. You are blessed! – Sherline 😀
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Thank you so much for taking the time out to read this. I m a very lucky man. Have a wonderful day.
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I simply love this blog. Thank you for sharing your wise words of love
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Thank you for your kind words. They are appreciated.
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Wow, what a testimony of God’s goodness and your wife’s strength and inner beauty. I’ve enjoyed reading so many of your posts, especially this one and the “Fragments of Me” stories. Continued blessings to you both!
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You have just made my day. Thank you for taking the time out to read my work. And thank you for your lovely words.
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I think you can be sure she loves you very, very much 🙂
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Yes, I am certain of that. She is a wonderful loyal woman. Thank you for reading and your kind words.
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I’ve just followed your blog. We’ve conversed quite a bit via comments, but I’ve only just got around to visiting your blog and checking you out!
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Thank you. Call em Andre or Drew, whichever you prefer.
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After reading what you have been through I realize just how fortunate I have been. After my wife was laid off in Sept. of 08 and her unemployment benefits ran out we lost a third of our income. And came close to losing our home but were able to refinance. Last year I was out of work for 5-6 six weeks after reaching the point of being unable to deal with the bullying I’d been experiencing for years. Then at the end of 17 and beginning of 18 I lost another 5-6 weeks of work when one of my ribs popped out of its socket.
Over all we are doing well even though things are still tight. I’m glad that you made it through the dark times and came out on the other side. I’m also glad that you had someone who understands that true love is a Choice that isn’t based on the fickleness of feelings who deliberately chose to stand by you come what may.
Allie is true love personified! 🙂
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Yes she is. Have you seen her photo on some of my posts?
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Oh Yes I’ve seem the pictures of your wife.
She is very lovely !
Where is she from? 🙂
I’ve been reading poems from top of to bottom.
And occasionally clicking on one listed below that catches my eye.
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Traveled to the Dominican Republic to find her. She is a gem. A great woman.
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Cool Beans! 🙂
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My gosh, what an inspiring story! So glad you shared it!
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Thank you so much. She is a special woman.
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WoW! Strong lady… strong survival story! She certainly is a hero!
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Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words. I appreciate it.
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Allie is a great soul. Really a hero.
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She is part of my past
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