When I was a kid my mother told me to study people. You can learn so much by watching the habits of a winner. Learn from the mistakes of losers so you don’t make them yourself.
I took this a step further. I have always paid attention to the men the women in my life admired.
5 – My mother admired Joe Namath. She wasn’t a football fan, but she admired the way Namath guaranteed the New York Jets would win the Super Bowl III and how he backed it up. She always told me a real man kept his word. Men need to be trusted and keeping your word is the best way to earn trust.
4 – My BFF loves a man who can make her laugh. I believe no man should take himself TOO seriously. The ability to make light of oneself is important. Easing the tension in stressful moments can be a gift. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating a man be a clown. No woman admires that. My philosophy has always been if you can’t laugh at yourself, well, you have no right to laugh at anyone else. And a little laughter si always better than a whole lot of stress.
3 – My Ex had to see every Kevin Costner movie that came out. What do women love about Kevin Costner? He portrays sensitive men, but he is always a MAN. A defender of women. Women hate wimpy whiney buffoons. Sure, they want a man to be sensitive to their needs, desires, good listeners, etc, but first and foremost, he needs to still be a man.
2 – My daughter Catherine always had a crush for Johnny Castle (the male protagonist from Dirty Dancing). I think she still does. What can you learn from a fictional character? A whole lot about women. Every woman wants to be with a good man, yet they all admire and desire the bad boy. A little bad boy can also help keep the flames burning hopefully avoiding the dulling of romance.
1 – Allie has a thing for the McDreamy character of Grey’s Anatomy played by Patrick Dempsey. The character Derek Shepherd is a neurosurgeon at a hospital in Seattle. Women appreciate intelligence. They love great conversation. Dumb jocks can be fun, but you have to talk sooner or later. DUH. Intelligent, charming conversation is important to women.
And these are a few thing I have learned by studying the men the ladies in my life admire.
Thanks for reading.
Have a great weekend.
Many men could learn a thing or two by listening to you. 😉
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Very kind of you to sat that. Thank you.
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great post!
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Thank you. I appreciate it.
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These are actually very spot on.
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Smiling. Thank you for saying that. I really think these are traits that women appreciate in men. I’m not saying a man should copy these men, but having an awareness of these traits won’t hurt. Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment. I appreciate it. Have a fantastic week.
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this was very illuminating. I agree with the qualities that the ladies in your life admire and I’d add loyalty as personified by Samwise Gamgee in the LoTR movies. A guy has got to be loyal enough to journey to Mordor with his lady if a ring of power happens to fall into her hands.
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You are so right. Loyalty is very important. Great example, too. Thanks.
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You’re welcome 🙂
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Spot on with your observation! I guess I agree with all of them! 🙂
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Smiling. I am not suggesting men try to copy thse men, but by studying their spouses they can work on their strengths and weaknesses in hopes of becoming a better mate. Thank you for reading and for contributing your thoughts.
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Very incisive post.
My best friend and myself many many years ago would love to go out, spend time and people watch. Its not like we planned on it, but over time we both noticed how each other had the same knack to see what we could learn from people, their actions and the circumstances they face. There’s a plethora to be learned if one just pays attention. Great piece.
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Thank you. You are so right. You can learn so much by watching people. I am a writer, it helps me make my characters lifelike. And it has taught me to be a better man. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and comment. I appreciate it.
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I agree with all of these especially the laughter one… But I’d add John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever !
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Smiling. Need a little sexiness too. Thanks for reading and adding your comments. Much appreciated. Be well.
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A little sexiness goes a long way! 🙂
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Haha Yes it does.
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This is a really entertaining post – and I don’t normally read this kind of stuff, so I like it all the more. 🙂 And I think your mum’s advice was really great and I’ll make a point of following it, too… I think it’ll do me good. 🙂
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Smiling. I try to keep the blog posts fresh. It gets boring posting poetry all the time. I try to learn by watching other people. It was good advice. Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment.
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Thank you for including me. Appreciated.
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oh i would love to just share this to my dearest so he will realize that men should learn from the men their women admire. 🙂
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It makes sense, doesn;t it. I am not advocating for men to copy other men. But when a man learns what makes his woman happy, he can work on his strength and weaknesses, and perhaps be a better man. Thank you for stopping by to read and comment. I appreciate that. Have a wonderful day full of sunshine and smiles.
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Yes. You made perfect sense. It is not copying it is just knowing what your woman want. Happy wife/girlfriend/partner happy life. 😀
Thank youuuu! 🙂 I have same wishes for you. 😉
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Exactly!!! Thanks.
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Thank you too! 😀
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INTERESTING OBSERVATIONS—WHAT KIND OF MAN ARE YOU—OR DO YOU WANT TOO FIND????
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Thanks for the reblog. I always question what kind of man am I?
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Hello my friend hope you and your family are well it’s a great post and thoughtful as always l like it when you talk about family and experiences and you are a great writer Andrew and so talented … Your posts just get better … Ian 🌟
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Ian, thank you so much for saying that. Your kind words made me smile. Thank you. We are well. I hope you are good.
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It’s a pleasure and l am well and moving on after the last months and loss of mum my future is become clear and my destiny that God wants me to fulfil also being revealed through the news l read and write .. God Bless and keep you Andrew .. Ian
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So sorry for your loss. Having been through that, I know how difficult it is. God has a plan for all of us. Thank you Ian. God bless you. Be well.
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Your mother is very wise! Sounds like you have amazing women in your life 🙂
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I have been lucky. Thank you.
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Hi thelonelyauthorblog. Now that is something I never did like to observe all aspects of life! Thank you for liking my poem “Power!” Best Wishes. The Foureyed Poet.
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Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful day. – Andrew
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Allie and I share our on-screen crushes. lol
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LOL I just finished watcxhing 12 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy.
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Yea!
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I loved this! Now, I have to stop and think about the men in my life. I like Castle, Don and Charlie Eppes along with their dad (Numbers), and the doc on Saving Hope that sees ghosts whose name I can’t remember. That’s all of can think of off the top of my head. Why? They have all of the same qualities as in the article. ~ Connie
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Hello, LA, am wondering whether I should thank You for posting this under Humour, as that was the link that I had clicked on the menu! 🙂
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Smiling. Wow, I didn’t think I posted that under humor. Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate that.
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Keep up the Good work, my Dear LA! …As I might have to You earlier, You are Not So Lonely! We are with You, both in Your work and the results! 🙂
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THank you so much for stopping by and leaving me such a rewarding message. I hope you have a wonderful day full of love and light.
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Thank You, Brother! 🙂 Peace and All the Very Best to You, too! 🙂
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Thanks
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Thank you
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I’d say you nailed it! 🙂
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Thank you for saying that. I appreciate your kind words. Have a great evening.
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very right. brains impress women
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Lol. Some women are impressed by that.
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I’m one of those lolz
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lol
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Wow, this is great! Everything about this piece is wonderful. I admire the way you weave in your personal experiences and apply them to larger more general principles about what women find desirable in men.
My mother has always liked Denzel Washington. tUsually -especially as of late- Denzel is portrayed as the hero or some type of armed guard. He does this while displaying a sense of confidence. So I think my mother likes him because he symbolizes ultimate patriarch: a man who makes her feel safe from the cold world.
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Thank you for reading this post. I had forgotten all about it.
Seriously, we can learn about what our women want from studying the men they admire. Denzel is a great example of someone who is taking care of loved ones and making them feel safe. Thank you for sharing your example. I appreciate that. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Absolutely! Keep writing and have a good weekend!
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Thanks. You too.
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Great observations. Enjoy your day.
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Thank you
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Re #4:
I can see why you call yourself “The Lonely Author,” but judging by what I what I have read of your work and “The Man Behind The Blog,” you may weep, but never alone.
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Wow, what a beautiful and poetic comment. Thank you so much. Appreciate that.
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Brownie points if he can change out a toilet. =)
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LOL Love your comment
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Wow.wonderful,dew!!
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Thank you Aruna
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Reblogged this on LIVING THE DREAM.
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Happy you think this was worthy of sharing.
Thank you for your reblog and support.
It means a lot.
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You are very kind for sahring this post.
Thank you so much. Appreciate the kindness and support.
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Absolutely true,dear!! If we can not laugh ourselves we have no right to laugh on others.wonderful post,my dear friend!!
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